Living abroad can be exciting, but there are some really difficult things about it as well. One of the hardest things is missing out on important events in the lives of the people I love. Our first fall in Korea one of my roommates from college got married. On her wedding day I cried for hours because it felt so wrong not to be there. This week’s adventure is a story of me trying to be involved in the big moments from the other side of the world.
Last summer when I went home to the US for vacation, my best friend, Christina, flew out to my in-laws house to spend the weekend with me. At the time, she had just begun a serious relationship with a guy I’d never met – Andy. In the way of best friends, I knew almost immediately that this was it. He was “the one.” So I dragged her to every jewelry store in the mall and made her try on engagement rings. They’d only been dating for a few months at the time and I never would have done that under ordinary circumstances, but I was about to leave for another year and a lot can happen in a year. I wasn’t about to miss this.
It might have been pushy at the time, but I felt pretty validated when Andy started asking me about rings in December. If I’d been there I would have just taken him ring shopping, pointed out what she liked and didn’t like, and graciously tried on as many rings as necessary for him to get a visual. But I was in Korea, so I did the next best thing. I made him a thorough, 20-slide powerpoint complete with quiz questions and prizes that plays Beyonce’s “Single Ladies” throughout the presentation. (Remember, Andy has still never met me in person and so undoubtedly thinks I am a complete freak. Worth it).
So I “helped” Andy shop for a few months. There was much conferring. There was much secrecy. Then, a few weeks ago I was skyping with Christina and she said, “I think he’s going to propose soon.” At THAT EXACT MOMENT I got a message from Andy.
“Are you still skyping with C? I have an excellent update.”
“Ring has been purchased. I’m picking it up in an hour.”
I stayed stone-faced like a baller. I deserve an award for this. I have a VERY expressive face.
Last weekend Andy and Christina got engaged. (Hurray!) I knew it would be happening while I was sleeping Saturday night which made me so excited I hardly slept at all.
If I had been there I would have met Christina at the door with champagne and a Brides magazine and I would have taken her to get a manicure the next day. Since I am in dumb Korea (just because everywhere that is not where my friends and family are is dumb at times like this) I had to improvise. Another awesome friend of mine who lives near Christina agreed to act as my agent and got the champagne and the bridal magazine and other goodies and brought them to her apartment while she was out getting engaged. The whole operation was a big success.
Now to tackle my next trial – obnoxiously inserting myself into every part of the wedding planning that happens in the six months before I get back home. Challenge accepted.
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This is so hilarious and cute! Way to be an awesome long-distance friend 😀
: ) Thanks. Glad you enjoyed it. I’m sure you can relate with those feelings of wanting so badly to be there and having to figure out a way to make it work!
I love this story. I love how you managed to learn from a difficult situation, and used it to come up with imaginative solutions.
Aw, thank you! I’m glad you enjoyed it. I think living abroad has taught me creative problem solving in lots of ways I’d never encountered before. 🙂 Thanks for reading!
You must be an AWESOME friend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Congrats to Christina 🙂
That’s sweet, but really SHE is an awesome friend. Have you ever had a friend that just made it impossible not to love them? She came out to Korea to visit us last year and before she came she got in touch with all of my good friends, even the ones who weren’t friends of hers, and had them all send gifts and letters to her to collect. Then she flew over here with an entire suitcase full of gifts and letters and thoughtful things from her and from all of my friends. It’s easy to want to be a good friend when you have a really good friend. 😉
Well, you are both very lucky to have each other! I have never had such a close friend, I guess… I’m kind of jealous! But so happy for both of you. 🙂
Hahahahahahhaha This is THE BEST.
🙂 I mean, the best would have been being there. But since that wasn’t possible, this was a close second, haha.
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